| Location | Deal, Kent |
| Age | 0 |
| Date of Birth | 24/10/2007 |
| Date of Death | 10/2007 |
| Visitors | 3,661 since 10/12/2007 |
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It came as a shock to Paul (daddy) and I that we were pregnant, but a happy shock! This was first
baby for us both. My pregnancy was a blessing, it was too smooth, no swollen ankles, no morning
sickness, I felt bright as a button. Daisy's scans went well, each time we heard her heartbeat it
sounded perfect, our little Drum 'n Base baby, I had good blood pressure and iorn levels. I got to
full term, then one week over, then 10 days. I was booked in to be induced at 2 weeks but I so much
wanted to go naturally. Three occassions between 10 days and 2 wks the midwife attempted a sweep.
We listened to Daisy's heart all three times, the second time Sat 20th Oct there was a slight
deceleration and I got sent for a CTG. After being monitored almost an hour the sister told me I
was carrying a healthy happy little baby and sent me home. The third attept of a sweep Mon 22nd Oct
was successful, my midwife listened to Daisy's heart for quite a while and all was well, I was so
excited at the idea our baby might arrive within hours.
I went into labour that night, but slept through the early contractions. I felt quite ill the next
day, contractions were 8 mins apart. I called the midwife who talked me through everything and I
felt reassured all was normal. I was clueless. Later I rang back I told her my contractions were
all over the place and I hadn't felt baby move in a while, she told me baby could be resting before
the big job and came out to examine me. That's were our excitment disappeared, we couldn't hear a
heartbeat and rushed into hospital for a scan. Lay in a room with 4 nurses and a consultant we
watched the screen, they thought there was movement to begin with and we felt some hope but then
they realised it was my breathing. Perhaps they knew, I don't know, but no-one said for a while and
Paul and I just sat there thinking don't let this be real. Then the consultant finally confirmed we
had lost Daisy. We didn't know she was a little girl, not until we met her the next day.
I was a big fan of the idea of natural birth (who was I kidding!) I'd written a birth plan and
opted not to have pethadine as it would pass to baby, though now I don't know what I'd have done
without it then! It made me so ill, but it also took me to another place where I didn't yet have to
face my emotions. Three pethadine jabs and 16 hrs after being admitted to hospital Daisy was born
at 2:10pm on Wednesday 24th Oct 2007. She was so perfect, so much more beautiful than we ever
thought possible. I just was overwhelmed with grief, gutted, drugged up too much to take it all in.
After an examination the midwives bathed Daisy and Paul dessed her and held her and cried while I
slept off the drugs. The other midwives came in and fussed over her and held her like they would
any little one, this ment so much to me. It made me feel so proud. Chrissie the Sister nursed her
and kissed her little head. I spent the night with my beautiful Daisy beside me, the most precious
night of my life. I held her and examined every little part of her body so I could get to know her.
I told her how beautiful she was, how loved by mummy, daddy and all the family and I slept with her
cradled in my arms.
I'd a high temprature and the doctor thought Daisy's loss could be related to an infection, still
waiting for the blood and placenta results. We may never know. But we have to find peace with this
and believe God had other plans for our sweet girl.
Daisy's funeral was 6 days after her loss at our local village church. I didn't really go to
services but I did pop up there during the week before Daisy's birth to pray about strength in
labour and a healthy birth.... Then Paul and I sat outside the church and took in the view of the
sea. We asked the vicar if we could have Daisy buried there as it was so personal to us, amazingly
this was to be the first baby's funeral he had done since the loss of his own little 6 mth old boy
33 yrs before, bless him for having the strength. Daisy had a perfect little coffin, with fairies
dancing among daisies painted around it. Paul and I went to see her that morning, I was so
frightened to look at her, I needn't have been, she looked so peaceful and beautiful, I'm sure
that's what carried us through the day. We kissed her goodbye, tucked in our photo and the little
things our family wanted to be with her. A St. Christopher's, an angel, a little cross and a baby
Bible. Daisy had a journey bear that came in her little coffin to guide her along the way, I
thought that was a sweet gesture.
The service was lovely, a beautiful light shone into the church and the vicar read The Stolen Chid,
by WB Yates, Aunty Lizzy played the flute so beautifully and we listened to Jimmy Cliff's 'Many
Rivers To Cross' maybe little Daisy heard this before. Daisy was laid to rest beneath a silver
berch where her daddy since hung a bird feeder and a few little Christmas decorations. We visit
Daisy there but we know she's is everywhere not just there, she is always with us.
I miss her so much, I don't understand why she had to go. When I fell pregnant I was so sure this
little baby that grew inside me was going to turn my life around, make me strong, give me a great
love and a real sense of purpose. She has done all this and more, she has made me a mother and I
can be so proud of her.
I miss you my sweet beautiful girl. Look after her dear Heavenly Father, be sure she knows mummy
and daddy love her and send to me a feather xxx
THIS TRIBUTE IS FOR FRIDAY BUSY DAY FOR ME
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
If I Knew
If I knew it would be the last time
That I'd see you fall asleep,
I would tuck you in more tightly
and pray the Lord, your soul to keep.
If I knew it would be the last time
that I see you walk out the door,
I would give you a hug and kiss
and call you back for one more.
If I knew it would be the last time
I'd hear your voice lifted up in praise,
I would video tape each action and word,
so I could play them back day after day.
If I knew it would be the last time,
I could spare an extra minute
to stop and say "I love you,"
instead of assuming you would KNOW I do.
If I knew it would be the last time
I would be there to share your day,
well I'm sure you'll have so many more,
so I can let just this one slip away.
For surely there's always tomorrow
to make up for an oversight,
and we always get a second chance
to make everything just right.
There will always be another day
to say "I love you,"
And certainly there's another chance to say
our "Anything I can do?"
But just in case I might be wrong,
and today is all I get,
I'd like to say how much I love you
and I hope we never forget.
Tomorrow is not promised to anyone,
young or old alike,
And today may be the last chance
you get to hold your loved one tight.
So if you're waiting for tomorrow,
why not do it today?
For if tomorrow never comes,
you'll surely regret the day,
That you didn't take that extra time
for a smile, a hug, or a kiss
and you were too busy to grant someone,
what turned out to be their one last wish.
So hold your loved ones close today,
and whisper in their ear,
Tell them how much you love them
and that you'll always hold them dear
Take time to say "I'm sorry,"
"Please forgive me," "Thank you," or "It's okay."
And if tomorrow never comes,
you'll have no regrets about today.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
"I'll lend you for a little time
A child of Mine," He said,
"For you to love the while she lives,
And mourn for when she's dead.
It may be six or seven years
Or twenty-two or three,
But will you, till I call her back,
Take care of her for Me?
She'll bring her charms to gladden you,
And should her stay be brief,
You'll have her lovely memories
As solace for your grief."
"I cannot promise she will stay,
Since all from earth return.
But there are lessons taught down there
I want this child to learn.
I've looked this wide world over,
In my search for teachers true.
And from the throngs that crowd life's lanes,
I have selected you.
Now will you give her all your love,
Not think the labor vain,
Nor hate Me when I come to call
And take her back again?"
I fancied that I heard them say,
"Dear Lord, Thy will be done,
For all the joy Thy child shall bring,
The risk of grief we'll run.
We'll shelter her with tenderness,
We'll love her while we may,
And for the happiness we've known,
Forever grateful stay.
But should the angels call for her,
Much sooner than we planned,
We'll brave the bitter grief that comes,
And try to understand."
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
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When tomorrow starts without me
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today
While thinking of the many things
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you.
And each time that you think of me
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And took me by the hand.
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I looked towards the clouds today
And for a moment saw your face.
I wondered just where you have gone
With hope it's a better place.
Did you show yourself to me today,
To tell me you're all right?
Or was it just a daydream
Playing tricks upon my sight?
We will always feel the void inside
Because you are not here.
But each new thought you send our way
Lets us know you're near.
So until our journey nears its end
And we hear the angels sing,
We'll face each new day as it comes
And live off the love you bring.
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Life is but a stopping place,
A pause in what's to be,
A resting place along the road,
To sweet eternity.
We all have different journeys,
Different paths along the way,
We are all meant to learn some things,
But never meant to stay.
Our destination is a place,
Far greater than we know,
For some the journey's quicker,
For some the journey's slow.
But when the journey finally ends,
We'll claim a great reward,
And find an everlasting peace,
Together with the Lord.
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Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
Friday
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
God saw you getting tired
And a cure was not to be.
So he put his arms around you,
And whispered "Come to Me".
With tearful eyes we watched you,
We watched you fade away.
Although we loved you dearly,
We could not make you stay.
A golden heart stopped beating,
Ward working hands now rest.
God broke our hearts to prove to us
He only takes the BEST
If we could have a lifetime wish
And one dream that could come true
We would pray to God with all our
Hearts just to see and speak to you
A thousand words won’t bring you back
We know because we’ve tried
And neither will a million tears
We know because we’ve cried
You’ve left behind our broken hearts
And precious memories too
But we’ve never wanted memories
We only wanted you.
Little did we know that morning
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you,
But you did not go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
You left us peaceful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And though we cannot see you,
You are always by our side.
Our family chain is broken
And nothing seems the same.
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
Have A Good Weekend Everyone
Gone are the days we used to share,
But in our hearts you are always there,
The gates of memory will never close,
We miss you more than anyone knows,
With tender love and deep regret,
We who love you will never forget.
Gone is the face we loved so dear
Silent is the voice we loved to hear.
Too far away for sight or speech,
But not too far for love to reach,
Sweet to remember them once here,
Who, though absent, is just as dear.
In all the world we shall not find
A heart so wonderfully kind,
So soft a voice, so sweet a smile,
Inspiration worthwhile;
A sympathy so sure, so deep
A love so beautiful to keep.
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
X GTS SPECIAL FRIENDS X ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥
Xx Pass this on to all your friends xX
If I could catch a rainbow
I would do it just for you
And share with you its beauty
On the days you're feeling blue.
If I could build a mountain
You could call your very own;
A place to find serenity,
A place to be alone.
If I could take your troubles
I would toss them in the sea,
But all these things I'm finding
Are impossible for me.
I cannot build a mountain
Or catch a rainbow fair,
But let me be what I know best,
A friend who's always there
I WOULD LIKE TO THANK EVERYONE
THAT HAS TAKEN THE TIME
TO LIGHT A CANDLE OR TRIBUTE
FOR MY VERY PRECIOUS SON
DAVID THAT I
LOVE AND MISS SO MUCH
Thoughts Today Memories Forever
PAULA DUFFY AND DAVID SMALLBONE (DAVIDS MUMMY AND DADDY)
Happy Birthday Daisy.
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love Jude.x
GOD BLESS YOU DAISY.
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LOVE JUDE.X
DANIEL SWADDLE'S MAM.
Happy Birthday our little Daisy xxxx
Sweet Daisy
Mummy and Daddy can't believe it's been a whole year since we met you and held you in our arms, full of love, pride and sadness. We have been so blessed by you our sweet beautiful girl, you have knit us together and watched over us and your little brother.Miss you oddles and hope today you are causing a little fun up there on your birthday beyond the clouds, painting rainbows and shining down on us.
Miss you darlin, more than I could ever say, love you with all my heart. Thank you sweet angel for coming into our lives, teaching us all that is worth knowing about love. Love you forever our wee flower, forever and ever and ever.
Mummy and Daddy and baby Seth
THE CORD!
We are connected, my child and I,
by an invisible cord not seen by the eye.
It’s not like the cord that connects us at birth,
this cord can’t be seen by any on earth.
This cord does its work right from the start,
it binds us together, attached by the heart
I know that it’s there, though no one can see
this invisible cord, from my child to me.
The strength of this cord,it’s hard to describe,
it can’t be destroyed, it can’t be denied.
It’s stronger than any cord man could create;
it withstands the test, can hold any weight.
And though you are gone and you’re not here with me,the cord is still there though no one can see.
It pulls at my heart, I am bruised, I am sore,
but this cord is my lifeline as never before.
I’m thankful that God connects us this way,
a mother and child…Death can’t take it away.
xxxxxx
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