| Location | Deal, Kent |
| Age | 0 |
| Date of Birth | 24/10/2007 |
| Date of Death | 10/2007 |
| Visitors | 3,650 since 10/12/2007 |
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It came as a shock to Paul (daddy) and I that we were pregnant, but a happy shock! This was first
baby for us both. My pregnancy was a blessing, it was too smooth, no swollen ankles, no morning
sickness, I felt bright as a button. Daisy's scans went well, each time we heard her heartbeat it
sounded perfect, our little Drum 'n Base baby, I had good blood pressure and iorn levels. I got to
full term, then one week over, then 10 days. I was booked in to be induced at 2 weeks but I so much
wanted to go naturally. Three occassions between 10 days and 2 wks the midwife attempted a sweep.
We listened to Daisy's heart all three times, the second time Sat 20th Oct there was a slight
deceleration and I got sent for a CTG. After being monitored almost an hour the sister told me I
was carrying a healthy happy little baby and sent me home. The third attept of a sweep Mon 22nd Oct
was successful, my midwife listened to Daisy's heart for quite a while and all was well, I was so
excited at the idea our baby might arrive within hours.
I went into labour that night, but slept through the early contractions. I felt quite ill the next
day, contractions were 8 mins apart. I called the midwife who talked me through everything and I
felt reassured all was normal. I was clueless. Later I rang back I told her my contractions were
all over the place and I hadn't felt baby move in a while, she told me baby could be resting before
the big job and came out to examine me. That's were our excitment disappeared, we couldn't hear a
heartbeat and rushed into hospital for a scan. Lay in a room with 4 nurses and a consultant we
watched the screen, they thought there was movement to begin with and we felt some hope but then
they realised it was my breathing. Perhaps they knew, I don't know, but no-one said for a while and
Paul and I just sat there thinking don't let this be real. Then the consultant finally confirmed we
had lost Daisy. We didn't know she was a little girl, not until we met her the next day.
I was a big fan of the idea of natural birth (who was I kidding!) I'd written a birth plan and
opted not to have pethadine as it would pass to baby, though now I don't know what I'd have done
without it then! It made me so ill, but it also took me to another place where I didn't yet have to
face my emotions. Three pethadine jabs and 16 hrs after being admitted to hospital Daisy was born
at 2:10pm on Wednesday 24th Oct 2007. She was so perfect, so much more beautiful than we ever
thought possible. I just was overwhelmed with grief, gutted, drugged up too much to take it all in.
After an examination the midwives bathed Daisy and Paul dessed her and held her and cried while I
slept off the drugs. The other midwives came in and fussed over her and held her like they would
any little one, this ment so much to me. It made me feel so proud. Chrissie the Sister nursed her
and kissed her little head. I spent the night with my beautiful Daisy beside me, the most precious
night of my life. I held her and examined every little part of her body so I could get to know her.
I told her how beautiful she was, how loved by mummy, daddy and all the family and I slept with her
cradled in my arms.
I'd a high temprature and the doctor thought Daisy's loss could be related to an infection, still
waiting for the blood and placenta results. We may never know. But we have to find peace with this
and believe God had other plans for our sweet girl.
Daisy's funeral was 6 days after her loss at our local village church. I didn't really go to
services but I did pop up there during the week before Daisy's birth to pray about strength in
labour and a healthy birth.... Then Paul and I sat outside the church and took in the view of the
sea. We asked the vicar if we could have Daisy buried there as it was so personal to us, amazingly
this was to be the first baby's funeral he had done since the loss of his own little 6 mth old boy
33 yrs before, bless him for having the strength. Daisy had a perfect little coffin, with fairies
dancing among daisies painted around it. Paul and I went to see her that morning, I was so
frightened to look at her, I needn't have been, she looked so peaceful and beautiful, I'm sure
that's what carried us through the day. We kissed her goodbye, tucked in our photo and the little
things our family wanted to be with her. A St. Christopher's, an angel, a little cross and a baby
Bible. Daisy had a journey bear that came in her little coffin to guide her along the way, I
thought that was a sweet gesture.
The service was lovely, a beautiful light shone into the church and the vicar read The Stolen Chid,
by WB Yates, Aunty Lizzy played the flute so beautifully and we listened to Jimmy Cliff's 'Many
Rivers To Cross' maybe little Daisy heard this before. Daisy was laid to rest beneath a silver
berch where her daddy since hung a bird feeder and a few little Christmas decorations. We visit
Daisy there but we know she's is everywhere not just there, she is always with us.
I miss her so much, I don't understand why she had to go. When I fell pregnant I was so sure this
little baby that grew inside me was going to turn my life around, make me strong, give me a great
love and a real sense of purpose. She has done all this and more, she has made me a mother and I
can be so proud of her.
I miss you my sweet beautiful girl. Look after her dear Heavenly Father, be sure she knows mummy
and daddy love her and send to me a feather xxx
to daisy's loving parents,
i am sure you visited that tree today of daisy's resting place, and i am sure you cried so much. life can be so unfair, to take babies, children, innocents that haven't even lived yet.
may you find some kind of peace inside.
with sincere sympathy.
xxxxxx
A Birthday In Heaven - by Kris Smith
I heard you crying yesterday,
And felt your heart-sent love.
So I’m sending you this message
Now, from Heaven up above.
You’re wondering if I’ll celebrate
My Birthday (way up here).
I know you’re missing me today
I feel your essence near.
God planned a special day for me,
He told me with a wink.
He’d ordered me a special cake
(It’s Angel food, I think).
Balloons will fill the streets for me,
They float up through the clouds.
And we have lots of friends up here
That make us laugh out loud.
There is a Birthday carousel,
Jewelled horses ride the wind,
With music playing, oh so sweet…
The magic never ends.
I’ve made so many friends, you see
We laugh and play and sing.
We ride our bikes and play the fool
And sleep in Angel’s wings.
But we don’t blow out our candles here
Instead, they light the skies.
With love from your little Angel xxx
Born Still - by Unknown Author
Do you know how hard it is
To hold a baby who doesn’t cry?
Do you know how hard it is
To tell that baby Goodbye?
Do you know how hard it is
To look at an empty bed?
Knowing your child should be there
Resting her sleepy head?
Do you know how hard it is
Feeling you’re to blame?
And no matter what they tell you
You'll always feel the same.
Do you know the heartache
Knowing she's gone for good?
And feeling that you didn't
Do all the things you could.
Do you know how hard it is
To hear that it's Gods will?
Do you know the emptiness
When your child is born still?
Unfortunately we do!
Nine Long Months - by Ingrid Aspey
I carried you for nine long months,
Looking forward to your birth.
Little did I ever know,
You'd never breath on earth.
I'd made such plans for your life,
Looking forward to bringing you home.
I never though for one second,
When I came home I’d be alone.
They said there’d been some complications,
They said that you had gone.
I couldn't understand their words,
What had happened? What had gone wrong?
Now they don’t want to talk of you,
The people who drop by.
They think that I should just accept,
My baby's in the sky.
I’ll keep a part of you with me,
And everywhere I am, you’ll be.
I know we’ll meet again some day,
Then in my arms you'll always stay.
Every day I’ll think of you,
Think of you with love.
My precious little baby,
My Angel up above.
Copyright Ingrid Aspey 2009
Daisy's memorial is a beautiful tribute to a beautiful angel-you've done her memory proud with your beautiful words X (kimbobt84-ofb)
xxxxxxx
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When tomorrow starts without me
And I'm not there to see;
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me;
I wish so much you wouldn't cry
The way you did today
While thinking of the many things
We didn't get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you.
And each time that you think of me
I know you'll miss me too.
But when tomorrow starts without me
Please try to understand,
That an angel came and called my name
And took me by the hand.
Thank you for all your support through 2008.
Thinking of you
Love Laura
Recipe for Christmas All Year Long
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Take a heap of child-like wonder
That opens up our eyes
To the unexpected gifts in life—
Each day a sweet surprise.
Mix in fond appreciation
For the people whom we know;
Like festive Christmas candles,
Each one has a special glow.
Add some giggles and some laughter,
A dash of Christmas food,
(Amazing how a piece of pie
Improves our attitude!)
Stir it all with human kindness;
Wrap it up in love and peace,
Decorate with optimism, and
Our joy will never cease.
If we use this healthy recipe,
We know we will remember
To be in the Christmas spirit,
Even when it's not December.
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As Christmas time approaches
We miss you more and more
Memories of past Yule times
We always will adore
We still hang the decorations
Put the lights upon the tree
We hang the cards upon the wall
This one's for you, you see
Even though you are not here
You're always in our hearts
So we remember you this Christmas
While we're temporarily apart.
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I've set your place at the table
Your presents wrapped under the tree
Christmas carols playing
But you're not here with me
It seems harder this time of year
I miss you so much more
The only thing that gets me through
Are the memories of before
So here's a card just for you
To show how much I care
I know your waiting with the angels
One day I'll see you there.
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Thoughts Today Memories Forever
Angela(Christopher-John Rowe)Mum
Christmas Day
The Legend of the Dasiy
The Creator looked down.
All over earth He saw parents
whose hearts were heavy.
they had lost the littlest of His creatures,
their precious children.
He saw their tears
and heard their silent prayers.
He sent to earth a special flower...
a flower that would be just for them.
He scattered this little flower
far and wide...
in gardens and in fields,
along roads and paths,
in bright sunlit pastures
and into the darkest corners.
The Creator sent these saddened parents
the daisy, a little flower
to be watered with their tears.
The daisy symbolized the soul of their children.
It's bright white petals represented
their purity and innocence;
the green of its leaves,
the promise and hope
for brighter days to come.
The daisy thrived everywhere.
It stretched its bright face toward Heaven.
The special little flower was given
to remind each mother and father
that their little one rested
in the light and beauty of the Creator.
MERRY CHRISTMAS
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__________________I Have
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________________To Wish You
_______________Merry Christmas
______________And Also, A Happy
_____________New Year To You For
____________2009... I Hope The New
___________Year Brings You Loads Of
__________Happiness And Lots Of Fun.
_________I Hope You Have A Nice Day On
________Christmas Day, Filled With Lots Of
_______Angel Time.......And Of Course Eating
______Lots Of Nice Foods, And Candies. I Hope
_____That Santa Is Good To You As Well And He
___Brings You Loads Of Presents On Christmas Day
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